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August 15, 2008

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I agree completely about the childhood obesity problem and also the link to children from poorer neighbourhoods being more likely to be overweight. In addition to the factors you mentioned, that can also be traced back to feeding choices in infancy - choosing formula over breastfeeding, introducing solids too early, not making the right choices about "first foods".

But I think we need to be careful about assuming that team sports are the answer to both the obesity problem and to gaining confidence, team work skills, leadership, etc. Those are skills that I learned through girl guides and by being the oldest of 4 children. They are not skills that I learned through team sports. In fact if anything my experience in team sports as a child counteracted positive influences elsewhere. I was made fun of for being awkward and for my lack of coordination. I was blamed if we lost a game, because surely it was my missed pass, the goal that I let in, the race that I swam too slowly, or some other mistake that led to our demise.

I think parents need to find the environment that is right for their child and that will allow their child to thrive. I agree that access to team sports is important, but I just don't think it is the right environment for each child to learn the skills that you described.

When you look at the linkage between success in school/life and participation in team sports, I wonder if it is those that are more predisposed to being "successful" that thrive in team sports, rather than participation in team sports leading to them being "successful".

I think you and I had very similar experiences growing up, Annie. I also hated team sports (and equally loathed its evil twin, track-and-field day). I also loved being a Brownie and a Girl Guide (although I think I got a wee bit competitive about the badge thing). Hmmm.

What really struck me out of all this research was the fact that some kids don't have the same opportunities to play sports and that sports are a tool for developing the majority of the skills that ease the transition to school. There are certainly other ways of developing those skills, as you point out, but I don't have any research to show that kids in lower-income families or new immigrant families would be any more likely to participate in Guides/Scouts or other groups that might encourage cooperative play. If there are barriers that keep them from playing sports there might be barriers that keep them from participating in these activities, too.

I very much agree with the point that you make in your second-to-last paragraph: "I think parents need to find the environment that is right for their child and that will allow their child to thrive." I think that part of being a parent is bringing out your child's unique gifts while also encouraging them to develop some of the skills that don't come as naturally to them. The preschool years are a time when we can (hopefully) give our kids a chance to try all kinds of different things so that they can figure out what there skills and interests may be. As kids grow older they tend to specialize in the things they really love -- and to steer clear of things they love less.

The topic I keep reading about is that children must be involved in sports or they will suffer (in many ways), be obese, and be children of parents who deprived them.

The fact is sports are for the main part, entertainment. So, it can be fun to get a workout or to get some regular exercise. But for the most part we play sports to laugh, to cheer, to try out something we've seen others do.

As entertainment, they take up far too much time of a young person's life. Practices, travel time, tournaments, can consume a family's time and energy. I know many parents on the edge of burnout because they spend so much time driving their children around and trying to be at every game.

Exercise is good but it should not be equated with sports.

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