I'm a little late to this party but ...
The blogosphere continues to buzz over last week's Today Show on which ''Dr. Laura'' Schlessinger basically blamed Silda Wall Spitzer for her husband Eliot's turning to premium-priced prostitutes as a release.
When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings — sexually, personally — to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman. […]
Who knows what went on between the Spitzers? Certainly not the moralizing ''Dr. Laura.''
The cheating was his decision to repair what’s damaged and to feed himself where he’s starving. But yes, I hold women accountable for tossing out perfectly good men by not treating them with the love and kindness and respect and attention they need.
Oy vey. Don't go to a marriage counsellor — assuming that was what was needed — to ''repair'' the damage. Don't even have a ''girlfriend'' who is your intellectual peer. Hire a high-priced hooker less than half your age and risk your career, reputation and family because, boo-hoo, your wife didn't fall down on her knees every time you walked in the door.
Give. Me. A. Break. Lady.
And what if the high heels were on the other feet? What if the husbands are the partners not treating the wives ''with the love and kindness and respect and attention they need?" Would you be then excusing a wife's hitting on Chippendale dancers?
Authour Erica Jong was on CNN's Reliable Sources yesterday. I loved how she talked about this, between host Howard Kurtz's interruptions.
Well, I'm particularly horrified by Laura Schlessinger, who is blaming the woman for what's going on. Clearly, Eliot Spitzer had some sort of sex addiction problem. He didn't have a super ego that was developed as it should have been.
He had been doing this for eight years, and he thought he would continue to get away with it. He had worked out a system of going down to Washington, to the Mayflower Hotel, of all places, a place crawling with politicians and journalists, and he was seeing prostitutes at the Mayflower Hotel. He must have been insane to do that, or there was a lacuna where his (conscious) should be and he thought the rules that apply to other people didn't apply to him.
Maybe the guy is bipolar. I'm not a shrink. I'm a lowly novelist and poet. But I will say that all these shrinks who are going on TV and talking about Eliot Spitzer should be disbarred, or whatever they do to shrinks.
They should have their licenses taken away. An ethical shrink does not go on TV and psychoanalyze people she or he has not met. So I'm horrified by this.
Just for the record, ''Dr. Laura'' is not a ''shrink.'' She is a physiologist. Why she is presented as anything but beats me.
What really kills me is that this moralizing, homophobic anti-feminist gets so much airtime when much more qualified female pundits — who don't hate women — never make it into the show bookers' magic call lists.
Misogyny lives, especially in the conservative media.