The Unkindest Cut
While Lorena has stayed out of the spotlight since a jury found her not guilty by reason of temporary insanity - ex husband John Wayne has sought it out - making numerous TV appearances and starring in several highly publicized adult films.
"That kind of did bother me that he was, you know, going up and trying to make money off a tragedy and you know that was a tragedy. I mean if he doesn't consider it a tragedy then he's wrong," she said.
John Wayne has also had several brushes with the law including a 2003 domestic violence conviction.
"I hope that he's definitely seeking help. If he needs help because he does need help, you know, he keeps on abusing women and I'm working on my goal and I'm trying to focus on my life and I do have a new life," she said.
The focus of her new life is Lorena's Red Wagon - an organization which provides funds to abused women in shelters who seek mental health counseling.
Not long ago, that TV twit Tucker Carlson invoked Lorena Bobbitt's name in connection with U.S. Senator Hillary Clinton's campaign for the Democratic nomination for president.
"I think whenever she appears tough, I think it's good for her. I think she actually is tough. But the one thing we learned from the Lorena Bobbitt case is there's a great deal of resentment among women aimed at men. That's why Oprah's huge." Carlson continued: "I'm serious. Women are angry at men in a lot of ways. They don't say much about it, but they are. And she's pandering to that resentment and anger, and it's wrong." Nationally syndicated radio host Bill Press responded: "I think men have a reason to be angry at women based on what Lorena Bobbitt did." Carlson replied, "Well, I couldn't agree with you more. No man would ever defend the corollary. But women are like, 'Oh, I understand why Lorena did that.' I mean, they're really mad. And she's taking advantage of it."
Tucker also said, of Clinton, ''When she comes on television I involuntary cross my legs.''
(That shouldn't be too difficult for him, says I.)
Well, at least history will remember Bobbitt, and not Carlson.
The trend towards "Bobbitteering" is an indication of how rarely violence against women is taken seriously, and it functions to siphon serious attention away from a case which could be a valuable tool for education about domestic violence and its potent psychological effects. Instead, Lorena Bobbitt has become a joke: buttons calling for "Lorena Bobbitt for Surgeon General," T-shirts autographed by John Bobbitt himself that are emblazoned "Love Hurts," and snide jokes all devalue her experience and the importance of both her own trial and that of her husband (who was acquitted of rape). These jokes are also a subtle way of further detracting from the legitimacy of Lorena Bobbitt’s claims of violence and self-defense.
It's worth invoking Lorena Bobbitt's name now not for the cheap laughs at her expense -- and the expense of thousands of women -- but as a symbol for how media play down the very real issue of domestic violence and always go for the low blow.