Love means never having to say you're sorry
But, after watching CNN's Campbell Brown last night, and right now tuned to Oprah, it seems very clear that the sad saga is evolving into a useful hook to have the serious discussions about male-in-female violence that we haven't seen since O.J. Simpson was tried for the murder of his ex-wife Nicole and her friend Mark Goldman.
Many people have raised the fact that Rihanna and Brown, both products of homes where there was domestic abuse, had a tempestuous relationship. There have been reports that she has publicly screamed at him and slapped him before this incident.
This has led the men's rights types to suggest that she invited the attack.
And maybe she did him before. But to put her in the hospital in return?
The guy could use a little anger management, no?
But now this is about much more than these two.
Frankly, they don't matter except that, their apparent reconciliation, her reluctance to incriminate him, and the fact that they are recording a duet together about the trials and tribulations of love, send the message that it's okay for a guy to put his hand on a girl.
With, as Oprah reported, one out of three high school girls in the US the victim of violence by boys, and the murders of many girls by spurned boyfriends, it's past time that this issue get pop culture and new media coverage so that the kids who need to see it see it.
Oprah is doing a sensational job right now.
Girls, if he is mean to you once, he will be mean to you again. If he makes you feel bad about yourself, he does not love you. If he makes demands on you that make you feel guilty for not meeting -- like not spending more time with him instead of your friends -- he is unreasonable and controlling. If he hits you once, he will hit you again. If he won't go away when you want him to go away, he will stalk you.
He may even kill you.
His saying ''sorry'' and he won't do it again and he loves you and yada yada is just a bunch of bull.
Actions speak louder than words.
Get out while you can.
BEAT UP ON HER DATE: What to make of this?
Hip-hop star Chris Brown’s arrest for allegedly beating singer Rihanna has sparked outrage in the media for weeks, but a survey conducted by the Boston Public Health Commission found almost half of Hub teens think she is to blame for the assault.
“Somehow young people have gotten the message that this is just part of a relationship,” said anti-violence advocate Deborah Collins-Gousby.
Of the 200 Boston youths (ages 12 to 19) surveyed last month, 51 percent said Chris Brown was responsible for the incident, 46 percent said Rihanna was responsible and 52 percent said both were to blame; 52 percent said the media was treating Brown unfairly; 44 percent said fighting was a normal part of a relationship; and a “significant” number said “Rihanna was destroying Chris Brown’s career.” Women blamed Rihanna as much as men did.
Quite apart from the fact that there's no explanation why some of those percentages don't seem to add up, am I the only one who finds it disturbing how many people blame Rihanna for breaking her own face?