Women stay in abusive relationships for lots of reasons ranging from
love to terror. They may be afraid of further abuse if they try to
leave or get help. They may be worried about money to support
themselves and their children. They may be worried about losing their
home or possessions and worry that their children may be taken away
from them. They may be afraid of being alone, especially if they have
to move away from friends and family. There may be feelings of guilt or
shame which prevent her from leaving. They may have few friends or
family and feel they have nowhere to go. They may not want to move the
children away from their school. They may also believe that their
partner is going to change in the future.
It's not as easy to get out as some people think.
If only we'd see something as graphic and forthright on North American screens.
(Tip of the red hat to Facebook friend and Humber college prof Francesca Dobbyn for the link.)
Antonia Zerbisias has been a Star columnist since 1989 but has been telling people what she thinks ever since she could open her mouth. Her career ambition as an opinionator dates back to Grade 9 when a cartoon commentary on a teacher resulted in her suspension from high school. The principal sent her home with a note calling her "rude, obstreperous and bold." Her parents were neither amused, nor surprised. Once she was punished for being that way. Now she makes it pay. And, because she can take it as well as dish it out, she wants to hear what you have to say. Fire away!
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