Chew him up and spitzer out
Provocative, as usual, column from my friend and colleague Rosie Dimanno today, about ''cuckolded'' wives such as Elizabeth Edwards and Veronica Lario Berlusconi not ''manning up'' and suffering their cheating husbands silently.
Say what you will about husbands who are cads – as their respective spouses, disgraced Democratic presidential candidate John Edwards and Italian Prime Minister Silvio Berlusconi – appear to be. Yet males, even those who have been on the violated end of infidelity, are rarely wont to open a vein in public.
There are exceptions to this generalization, of course. But for the most part, men do not go whingeing to Oprah or pen avenging memoirs that simultaneously mortify a couple's children or wash the dirty BVDs out in the open.
I suspect this comes from the social conditioning of boys, who are still raised to not shed tears in public or otherwise reveal themselves as pussies. Girls, by comparison, are nurtured in the culture of tattle and tell-all grievance from the time they're subjected to their first schoolyard name-calling.
Females are inundated with mass media messaging – subliminal and overt – about bred-in-the-genes persecution, the biological and manifest destiny of their X chromosome, the gender for whom offence is endlessly done to.
The consequence, too often, is a kind of emotional indigestion with public burping as the antacid, especially for women who can command an audience.
They seek public validation for their pain.
Ummm ... and feel free to jump in here Rosie if you read this -- a guest post would be awesome -- but I don't think it's so simple.
For one thing, I don't think Senora Berlusconi is all that tearful. Instead, she's out kicking billion dollar butt.
For another, Edwards handled the situation when it happened with discretion and aplomb.
Like so many other politcal wives who are forced to stand by their man while they make tearful public mea culpas after being caught with their pants down with hookers or in men's rooms -- remember Eliot Spitzer's wife Silda? -- she is not curling up into a fetal position.
Maybe it was political opportunism on the Edwards' part -- although how anybody could believe this would never come out is kinda crazy. I truly believe Elizabeth took a ''this is nobody's business but ours'' approach.
Now she's cashing in. Good for her.
Of course I can't say how many male pols have been cheated on because, after all, the media aren't interested in what non-elected people do. Besides, cuckolded men tend not to hold news conferences.
The only reason anybody cares what Edwards and Lario have to say is because their husbands were/are famous cheaters.
P.S.I know the origin of the word cuckold relates to the cuckoo but I liked this photo better.