Today, I'm keeping this very short. Very, very short. It's really a note to say I'm not really blogging today, except this non-blog has turned into a blog, hasn't it?
You see, something has come up and I'm unable to be here to write to you.
Don't worry. Everything is going to be fine. Just a bit of a blip in my world order. We all have them. Something comes up out of nowhere and throws you a punch. Hits you in the head. You waver a bit. You may even fall down. But you get right back up or you manage to stay upright somehow.
You're stronger than you think. This is a positive.
You manage to rearrange your life because you have no choice. For me, it's all about resilience. Just having to bend and sway with the ever changing vicissitudes of life. That's life. It's no straight line. It's bends in the road. Hills and Valleys.
Positive psychology is an important branch of psychology. It's the real deal. Martin Seligman is a brilliant man. He's the founder of Positive Psychology. You can watch him talk about it. Get a lovely little lesson from the master. Have a look. It's worth 23 minutes of your time. Trust me!
I refuse to be a victim! You can do that, too! Refuse to be a victim. Refuse to allow psychiatrists to victimize you. Just don't buy their pathology. Their world view. Don't believe it. Learn to believe in yourself. If not yourself, then consider believing in Martin Seligman and Positive Psychology.
Learn to celebrate your life. Whatever it is. I teach a course in community service and leadership. I created this course. I teach my students to "make a difference" for their communities. Any community they choose. For the "greater good. And I love it.
Teaching this course is an enormous privilege. I love this course. I have a great life. I make my life great. I insist on living a pleasant life, a good life – and my teaching and my own community service give my life enormous meaning. Not to mention the relationships and the people I cultivate in my life. The way I have learned to engage. I work on it. It's glorious work.
It makes me happy. You make me feel happy, too. Knowing you're there, makes me feel my life has meaning. That's what "happy" means to me.
You can feel these things, too. You can learn that. Listen to this short TED.com talk of his. TED stands for Technology, Entertainment and Design. Have a look. And be sure to watch Martin Seligman's talk on positive psychology. Please. For me! Let me know what you think. How you react. I want to know. Share your comments and ideas here in the comments. That's meaningful, too. Let's talk about Positive Psychology, here!
You'll love Martin Seligman. He's a wonderful tonic for life. He's better than any pharmaceutical drug. Martin Seligman can teach you how to feel better about your life. Right now.
The point is, I do everything I can to stay positive. Really positive. In the psychologically positive way. And metaphorically, too. I start manufacturing Lemonade out of Lemons with great gusto. I believe that all will be well. No matter what, all will be well.
This positive energy is very powerful. It's an attitude thing and everything is attitude.
Here's a little exercise I do with my students.
Read this word OUT LOUD: OPPORTUNITYISNOWHERE
What do you see? What did you say?
Opportunity Is Nowhere?
Opportunity is Now Here?
There's no right or wrong answer. This is just a perceptual exercise.
I'm a half glass full kind of gal and that's what drives me – this wildly predominant and quite natural "cockeyed optimism" – and I always qualify by stressing the word "cockeyed". ;)
So, let's try to have a positive weekend. Let's try to work on our attitudes, just for today. Just for an hour, if you're feeling low. Today is a new day and I'm sure the sun will rise tomorrow and it will be a new beginning. That's positive in itself. I love mornings. Fresh slates. A clean page with nothing yet written on it.
I love all the possibility in that. The power of possibility! You can make it positive.
I tell my students that when they go into a job interview, no one will ever ask them for their Grade Point Average, but if they exude a positive attitude, they have a greater chance of success.
Attitude is everything and I think attitude is something to work on. Go for a walk outside. Breathe the fresh air. Find a nice park with lots of trees and lots of oxygen and fresh air. And breathe. It's good for your head and your soul. And something else. Do something nice for someone else. Anything.
That's going to make your day!
It's going to be a beautiful sunny day, here in Toronto. Do me a favour. No matter how you're feeling, do something for yourself by doing something for someone else.
Do something nice, for yourself, too.. Something that will make you feel sensational.
Because you know what? You are sensational. You really are, in your own unique and special way. You're you and there's no one else on the planet like you. Never has been. Never will be. Isn't that amazing?
Celebrate your uniqueness. Engage with someone. Enter into their world. Listen to their story. Lose yourself in another human being. Be there for them!
You'll turn today into a "Be Good To Me Day" – you'll see! Feel positive and enjoy the moment.
(Hugs are very positive, too!)