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  • After 30 years as a reporter, feature writer and columnist for The Toronto Sun, Sandy is now a freelance writer, public speaker, mental health advocate and Seneca College instructor. You can learn more about Sandy here, and contact her here.

    "Blessed are the cracked, for they shall let in the light." Groucho Marx

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January 06, 2010

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Kate

Happy New Year Sandy!

Hope you are feeling better soon. I have a head cold so am also trying to take it easy. That's hard for me to do also, so I am cleaning my place. Although right now I am taking a break and sending you this note. :-)

I love reading your blog- always upbeat and full of info. I recently watched this Youtube video of Dr. Robert Sapolsky- Prof of Neuroscience at Stanford... great lecture about depression:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NOAgplgTxfc&feature=PlayList&p=510B28EDDCA82E40&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=2
If that link doesn't work just do a search on Youtube for "Sapolsky" and "depression"

Also there's an interesting show on PBS called "this Emotional Life" and they touched on depression and how it affects the hippocampus area of the brain, and also the effect of antidepressants on the hippocampus. All very interesting.

May 2010 be a wonderful year! Mine is already off to a great start. I graduated and landed a new job!

All my best to you!!!
Cheers, Kate

Gardener

Hi, Sandy!

Your comment today hit the nail right smack-dab on the head! Medication isn't always the entire answer. Having dealt with my depression for 16 years I have noticed many things. For me in particular medication really isn't the answer. Talk therapy has been good, but I still had numerous relapses - big ones! However, about 6 years ago I was fortunate enough to attend the Stillpoint program in Barrie which is a mindfulness meditation practice group and since then I have not had any serious issues with my depression. That is the longest I have been free from a serious episode. I am more aware of it hiding in the background of my consiousness so I can deal with it before it becomes an issue and I have learned through the graces of the people leading the program to be kinder and gentler with myself and that whatever I am feeling, good or bad is okay - it is my experience and this too shall pass. I may still have my moments, but fortunately for me I have not been knocked on my backside. My last serious episode took me almost 2 years to recover from - so being this healthy for 6 years is truly a blessing for me. Take care & be kind and gentle with yourself.

Gardener

Sandy Naiman

Dear Kate and Gardener,

Thank you for your patience with me. Today, at last, I began to feel "human" again and wasn't chained to the "loo" so I worked all day on my classes which begin on Monday.

Kate, I hope your cold is on it's way out. Today's sun, here, was so beautiful to look at. I hope you derived a bit a sustenance from the sunlight. You sound so happy. So upbeat and excited about life and I'm absolutely thrilled for you.

Although I have downloaded Dr. Sapolsky's lecture, as it is 58 minutes long, I haven't had a chance to view it or to see our recordings of This Emotional Life. Over the weekend, I plan to take breaks between my lesson planning and see them and him!

I am very optimistic about this new year, 2010 or MMX (I love that, don't you?) and I wish you all the best in your new job. I know you'll do brilliantly. I can feel it. Your ebullient tone jumps off the screen.

You sound wonderfully winning.

And Gardener, heartfelt thanks for your uplifting and encouraging comment.

Medication is one tool in a tool box stuffed with tools of all kinds, as you demonstrate to us. I cannot understand why so many people resist the other tools.

Wisely, not you!

Knowing how you've turned your life around with time and effort, education and self-motivation, determination, is remarkable. A great achievement and a brave and courageous one.

We all have "our moments" ~ that's life. I know no one who sails through without a bump. No one. Those bumps are so educational and insightful. Not at the time, but looking back...

Your Recovery is a joy to read about and you give me hope that my beliefs ~ and they 're evolving all the time ~ are sound in their basis. I have so much to learn, but I am utterly overjoyed to hear a bit of your story.

Thank you so much for writing and sharing with us.

All the best to you both. Bravo!

I'm sending lots of positive thoughts in your direction for your continued success in your recovery and gallons of lemonade, too. Though it's frozen, the Lemonade Gods understand.

Be well. Of mind, body and spirit. I'm convinced we're a total package and when we're functioning on all our cylinders, smoothly, we make our lives rich and fulfilling ~ we thrive.

Speak soon.

Gardener

Thanks, Sandy!

We all need those little pats on the back, it's what helps keep us returning to write again ;)

I was waking from a nap and my head became full of ideas that I wanted to continue to share with you - I don't know that I have the space here. Anyway, it is true that despite what the professionals think, we - the survivors - have learned far more from our experiences than they will ever learn from a text book or lecture. To compare it with diabetes - which I have also heard (isn't that interesting - they must have all received the same memo) is astounding to me, really. I have never met a diabetic who felt ashamed or fearful to admit to anyone that they were in fact diabetic.

Mental illness, whatever variety a person is living with, is isolating. Never have I felt so alone in this world as when I have been in the grips of a debilitating episode of depression. Why do we feel so ashamed to admit that we are ill? Should it really take all the courage we have to even admit that we are ill on a blog where we can remain anonoymous? It is almost as if the "disease" has the ability to take your voice away. Depression has a way of convincing us that we are worthless and we believe this voice to be true because it sounds remarkably like our own. The only problem is that it is not our voice - it is the voice of the disease. A disease that is relentless in it's pursuit to win the battle for your life. I had to look to anything I could to win that battle. I told it No, that I wasn't worthless and that my family did need me.

This is the part that society doesn't truly understand. They call it a disease yet they seem to think at the same time we are fully responsible for what we do under the grips of this disease. When I began cutting myself I would get looks from professionals as if they were asking (with their eyes) "why would you cut yourself - stop it." I could explain the "Why I can't " to you if you would like - just let me know. It wasn't actually me who was doing the cutting - it was my depression - but how do you seperate the two of you when you can't see it on an xray or MRI? They can't operate on you and remove the problem - what's there to fix? It is a very complicated place to be.

Anyway - to further explain my learning experience about the kind and gentle thing. The meditation practice was to close your eyes and think of the person most dear to you, spouse, friend, sibling, pet, who or whatever. Feel the love that you have for that person - now turn that love around and feel it for yourself. It was more detailed than that of course. It is a most powerful practice. I took it even further than that - I visualized myself at various ages in my life. I visualized myself at my age now driving up the driveway of my childhood home. There I was at 5 years, 12, 17 and 22 years of age. To each one of these younger "me" I gave a very big loveable hug to. I told each one of them how beautiful they were, how smart they were and what a wonderful person they were. This was a huge healing practice for me. I gave myself the love that my Mother couldn't. I forgave myself more easily too. I still practice this visualization from time to time and I tell the "girls" that they have incredible strength and so many possibilites await them.

Yes, I have come a long way, baby! But I know that this journey is not over yet and I am hoping and working at, staying healthy.

Thanks for allowing me to express my voice on your blog. It's been a long time finding it.

Gardener

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