Today David Graham discussed his story - Back to the Fashion Battles - in which child development experts say that kids should be allowed to wear what they want, that it's a safe and healthy form of growth. Do you agree or not? Send your comments to firstname.lastname@example.org.And join us again next Thursday for another Naked Lunch chat.
Humans are very tribal. I think that we dress like peers in order to feel we belong. Just look at the various cliques in schools - they each have their own code of dress. And it continues on as we get older too. How many of us feel that we need the season's "it" purse in order to be accepted by our fashion peers? Or that we must wear Prada on our feet? Is that necessarily a bad thing? Or does it mean that we fashion enthusiasts simply have not matured? That we are still insecure children at heart? Bernadette
I think a lot of kids appropriate the look without embracing the associated lifestyle. How many kids in the sixties dressed like hippies without necessarily taking an anti-war stance? We have to presume they are innocent. The real gift here is that some kids literally wear their emotions on their sleeve and they may be presenting an opportunity to talk about what goth means to them and why they find the look appealing. David
As a parent, I am not so worried about the fashions, but about the lifestyle that may be associated with certain "looks". For instance, if a teenagers gets a Mohawk hairstyle, are they doing drugs with their friends? Bernadette
As a parent, I am not so worried about the fashions, but about the lifestyle that may be associated with certain "looks". For instance, if a teenagers gets a Mohawk hairstyle, are they doing drugs with their friends? BernadetteThanks for your comments. Mostly, as an adult deeply embedded in the workforce I agree with you. But I had to learn a lot of these lessons the hard way. And in my youth I made a lot of mistakes. So in the long run I agree with the child development experts who suggest fashion can be a launching point for discussions about appropriate attire. Rather that just tell a student that their clothes are wrong, ask them to explain why they are making these choices. In some sense it could be percieved as an opportunity for all parties to learn something about each other and the power of fashion. David
As a teacher of 12-13 year olds, I cannot tell you how many students arrive at school showing midriffs, bra straps, cleavage and wearing shirts with offensive slogans on them. Patterns and styles, goth or punk, coloured hair, these are not the issues and are fine with me. The issue is students showing too much skin and bringing a sexual element into the classroom, or a violent/anti-social mentality based on slogans. It becomes difficult to establish a positive relationship with students who are in their rebellious years and are resisting school and whose relationship to the teacher will be crucial for their learning, when I continually have to tell them that their dress is inappropriate for school. Where are the parents in this? They must have purchased the clothing for their kids and must be sending the message that it's okay to wear this to school. Teachers would like parents to take more of an active role in ensuring that their children are dressed properly for the circumstances. Mats