I don't normally stray from the sarcastic and silly in this blog, but a reader has something important to say:
Hi - I wrote you a couple months ago about my boyfriend who would not quit smoking. How I could tell it was making his health worse and I was scared and angry about what he does to himself. And I was thinking about leaving him just for that reason. Well let me add that I really loved him so much. I guess that was making it worse. He was telling me how I should leave it up to him when he is ready to make that decision. Well he just died. That is it, nothing more. He is gone.
He smoked a lot and that was basically the way he dealt with everything - so mostly he seemed to be a person who can deal with anything that comes his way, but in reality, he was killing himself. At 55, he got a massive heart attack. I know you would say people get heart attacks and do not smoke, but in his case that was obviously the cause.And I knew and I was basically begging him to stop ... I mean, the heart problems could still be there, but I believe he would be able to get out of it ... if not for smoking. I was mailing him some of the comments that I found on your blog ...Anyway, if you have not quit and are thinking maybe it is not such a big deal after all ... believe me, it is. He started a successful business, he has a child, he actually had a lot to live for. And he was such a nice person ... so hard for me now without him.I miss him so much ... and he would still be here if not for the cigarettes. He thought he must get to that point one day, on his own, when he decides to quit. Well it just does not work that way in real life, unfortunately. And we miss him so much ... and he is not coming back.